I’ve been reading Brene Brown’s The Gifts of Imperfection for the past month. I have these spurts where I immerse myself in a book for a day and then may not pick it up for the following week…or year. I’m on my way to finishing the book and that’s what matters.
“Comparison is the thief of happiness.”
Most of us have seen this quote brush-lettered to death on Pinterest, but what does it mean for our lives?
It’s human nature to compare yourself to others. From early on, we’re compared to our elders, siblings or classmates. Sometimes the comparison is harmless (You have your grandmother’s smile. You’re athletic like your dad). Other times, we are measured against others in ways that can foster self-doubt and anxiety.
“When are you going to get married?
“When are you going to have kids?”
“Are you finally done having kids?”
“When are you going back to school?”
As I near 30, I’ve received no shortage of intrusive questions about my personal life from family and friends. Why’s it so important to hurry up and reach these milestones? Because the world tells us that time is running out. If we don’t accomplish all of these by *insert arbitrary age* we have failed. While there are benefits to doing some things earlier on, life is unpredictable. The opportunity to grow or change should not have a timeline.
In keeping with society’s expectations, we often forget to be grateful for how far we’ve already come. Maybe your sister is happily married with a family while you’re still working on your career. That’s ok because right now, you’re using your knowledge to help advance your community and build a life for yourself. Perhaps it’s the other way around and you’ve got a family but never went to school. Right now, you’re raising your children to be kind, upstanding people who will hopefully impact the world in a positive way.
You deserve to be happy and enjoy your life today, exactly the way it is.